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[faithisbelieving]

Deepdive....I sense tremendous despair and sadness. Understandably. But our W's are bloodhounds. They sniff out anger and all that other crap. Would you want to be married to someone who lost the zeal for life?

It's time to get going.

Being overweight is a warning sign (I am an MD).I am not taking you to task on this but if inactivity and loss of living life to the fullest eluded you, then it's time to start making those changes that everyone has been talking about. I was never obese but I put on the mid 40's stuff and lost 35lbs (yeah....this D stuff helped, sadly).

If your W has decided to bail, there really isn't anything you can do to CHANGE THEM or CONTROL THEM. The only control YOU have is over your attitude and actions.

talking about issues does not get a positive response and trying to ignore her is harder

Why are you doing either? Why are you ignoring your W if you want her to stay? Discussing R talk won't help either. All you'll get are the responses that you've heard and don't want to hear.

so I end up just watching tv with her

Is this what you would call exciting? attractive? Was this what you did when you married her? I suggest you Google "being attractive to your wife" and see what you come up with and start reading.

but I have fixed the garage door and the AC that kind of stuff

Does this mean things weren't getting done around the house? Have you read the book The Five Love Languages? Was your W's tank 'empty' because she was filled by 'actions'?

Deep..it is time for you to get up and start to make some radical changes in your life. Stop the R talk. Don't sell her on your changes. She will note them if you are true to yourself.

Get going.
FIB