I agree with Cat about that too. We started out like that, and H would just come whenever I guess he wasn't busy with OW or whatever he was doing. So when he had a free moment he then would come to visit; I kind of think that is way too convenient for them and inconvenient for us LBS (having to try to figure out stuff basically according to their schedules all the time).
I recently asked my H to give me a set schedule of when he will visit each week while we are separated so I can make plans and that kind of thing. And I think it makes it more "real" that they can't just drop in when they don't happen to have a date for the night. Karen
