My sentiment exactly! ALL, I don't know about your having enough wine for all of the party animals that you would have to supply here. You had better get cracking because I'm ready for a party! Besides, we have to keep VJ and Spitty from being in a funk over this stuff.
VJ & Spitty,
I have been thinking about you both lately. You know, it's hard enough 5 years out to not have the feelings that your feeling, but it's been much less time than that for either of you. So this most likely is exactly how you're supposed to feel. Truth is I think there will always be some sort of hesitance until we make peace with what we've been through, and that's probably different in every case. Sometimes I even think we go through this and have these feelings because to a certain extent we want proof that the person we find ourselves in a new relationship with is not only on the same page, but won't cause us or our children to relive our pain. Besides that, the fear of the unknown causes us to not want to venture out of our comfort that we have now made for ourselves. It's really hard figuring out how someone is supposed to fit into our new found family dynamic. Sometimes I wonder if this is fair to anyone, and how can they live up to what we want when sometimes we don't even know what that is? The onething I do know is that we have to ask for what we want, and if we aren't comfortable doing that or if the person that we are with doesn't want to hear it, we need to think long and hard about why that is.
We'll all be ok and we'll all get through this. Heck, we've been through worse, right?
