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But I would like to see you have some sort of contingency plans if things do NOT play out the way you think they will.

that is very sound advice. I had all my ducks in a row and my plans well made and slam! stbx didnt' accept my offer even when I thought it was a good one.

Put a price on everything (house vs. child support) and see if indeed is a fair trade, her L will make sure to get every number right and you might find out that what she could give you in CS either exceeds or is under the right amount in comparison to the price of the house/mortgage. If the numbers are fairly close then you'll know it's a good deal which she'll most likely take. My stbx fought me about the house, said it was worth way more than what it was, I had to get an informal appraisal before I paid him off.
Over all it does seem like a good plan, just check your figures sugar.

and she can have the kids whenever she wants

umm, no hon, don't tell her this, or you'll end up with her taking the kids with no notice during days you had plans, during holidays which fall on "your" days, trust me, you need a well set up schedule or you'll get major grief, you have no idea how she'll behave when D time comes( I'm not suggesting you are not supposed to be flexible, just dont' give her carte blanche about visitation.)
Look at Star for example, she was hoping her H would sign her agreement and be out of her hair--but now he's turned into a big jerk who is making her life hard.