Dean O Welcome. You're among friends here, even though for all of us, the situaiton is rough.
Listen, it'd be nice if a couple could move forward, with no tussles from the past. That committment comes naturally. But as you're realizing, that's not the case.
For what its worth, how about looking at your situation as dating her all over again. In other words, treat her with respect. Respect her space, give her time to work things out in her own mind. Develop TRUST, and give each other time to grow.
Love is patient, and that's what many of us have to find out. So be patient..."date" her as if you're starting all over again, and work to bring your emotions under control. Work on stablizing yourself.
