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[JAK58]

Hi Nik, So2,

I am pretty sure that it was a card but i am going to ask. Ow's D had her 6th garade Graduation this morning and i feel that the card was for that. Either way it is wrong and i won't and can't tolerate any more of it.

I may be understanding as to his problem but i also am not going to be used as a backup.

JAK

[Startingover2]

Even if it was a card for her d's graduation it is still VERY inappropriate. My H still has pics of OW's kids sitting out at his house. Drives me crazy. I know they are innocent kids, but its like a slap in my face and a part of his past. When he moves here they won't be coming with.

Your twin girls should be coming soon right? How exciting!

[JAK58]

He says it was a dvd from net flix that he put back into the mail box he had forgotten when he got some screws out.
Didn't see him go back to the mailbox but, right now I will take him at his word as I have no proof that he didn't really. I could have been walking to the garage when he did it.(although he was already in his truck).

Twins are due August 16 but, most likely will be about a month early so soon probobly.

JAK

[JAK58]

I am trying so hard to be understanding and be positive and his cheerleader. I really do think that he feels inadequate as C said but i am just so tired as this has gone on for soooo long.
It makes me so sad to know that he is still hooked on OW even though she is not interested in him.
He is never going to find those in love feelings as long as she is in the picture. Plus we have been married for 32 years and he might not have them hit him in the head anyway. He says he loves me and maybe i need to except that is enough but, I WILL NOT be second to her I'll leave. I'll give it some more time just don't have any idea what to do to help H get over her and wonder if I need to be more aggresive or just let it all go and act as if we are all better so to speak.

JAk

[NikB]

JAK - I can sure relate to that 'tired' feeling. You absolutely deserve to be first, not second to a fantasy. Wanted to mention though.. especially if she's not even interested in him anymore... he's REALLY obsessing over a fantasy, moreso than most WAS even. Usually the OW is up on a pedastal as it is. Now he's not even in an R with her, so he's free to build her up to the "perfect" person in his mind. He doesn't even have to deal with the real person anymore! Make sense?

I hope at some point (preferably soon!) he realizes this.

(((jak)))

[JAK58]

Nik

I do know what you are saying. I right now feel as if im'e pushing him somewhat by talking about it. I got another phone call yesterday from whoever it is that calls and tried to start trouble. They just said that they "are still taking and stuff". I don't believe this as H wouldn't be so upset about her not talking to him. I do confront him when something likre this happens. This stuff needs to be andwered for and not brushed under the rug.

JAK

[Startingover2]

I used to get text messages saying the same things..."Don't be stupid. He is still involved with OW". I think it was OW herself as one of the texts told me when he was with her. How would anyone else know what but her?

[JAK58]

I think it might be someone that works there that she is friends with.

I know it isn't her, Hell she won't even talk to him. it's not her voice and when the calls come she is working too. I just know.

JAK

[NikB]

(((Jak))))

Happy Friday!! Hoping for no more icky text messages.

[JAK58]

You too Nik so2 and all my friends here!

JAK