FIB, I am sorry that I caused your thread to get locked. As I explained in my post, I was NOT encouraging you to walk away from your marriage...I was only trying to encourage you to be sure of what YOU want. You know that I have been following your thread and supporting you for a long time. I have seen the way your w has treated you. I don't want to see you get hurt anymore than you have been already. I was trying to encourage you to set goals for yourself and work to achieve those goals. I believe that even Jack-Three-Beans once stated that he set "expectations" for his wife and then waited to see if she could meet them. (JTB, if I misinterpreted that, I am sorry.)
SG, I am sorry that you read what I wrote the way you did. Trust me, after 20 years of marriage....after being married to an alcoholic and an adulterer, I think I understand that marriage is about giving, not receiving and not just fulfilling our needs. Because trust me, I gave and gave lots in my m, not receiving in return...and my needs were definitely not always met. But, seeing how I am getting ready to walk down the aisle again tomorrow, I am glad that you pointed that out to me!
I have to tell you, I hate being in a position where I have to explain a comment that I made! And, it would have been nice if I could have explained myself on your thread.
FIB, I wish nothing but the BEST for you. As I have told you before, I admire the way you have dealt w/ all that you have. And, I pray that you find happiness and peace.
