My IC (formerly our MC) has offered a few pointers, but hasn't comprehensively suggested how to handle W's control freak-outs.

I have an appointment with him Sunday after next -- I must remember to ask him.

I am so sorry if your H too tries to manipulate or out-right control you. That is just not healthy for a relationship.

Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.