You couldn't be me even if you wanted to...

[Sugar and Spice]

I didn't have to go all the way across town to deliver the meds afterall, H came over here to get them, but I SOOO wish he wouldn't have. DS and I have been having some problems and its hard enough for me as an adult to go through this, I can't imagine what its like to be a 12yr old boy and having to know what he knows. So I was very frustrated earlier and was complaining to H about it and so when he comes over here he decides to take matters into his own hands and be "SuperDad!" So he is a complete bully to DS and while I appreciate him stepping in and trying to make DS see some things about his behavior, the example he sets is so bad. He got really physical with DS, smacked him in the head 3 times. I was physically abused as a kid and I just can't take that. That is and always has been the road of last resort with me. I remember how it felt and I just couldn't put my kids through that. H was also physically abused however seems to embrace it. He hasn't seemed to learn what not to do, anytime it comes down to it, he bullies to make his point. He demands respect, but never gives it in return. So then he gets pissed at me for not backing him up when its my fault it happened. WTF? That is NOT what I envisioned when I was telling him my frustrations. H also takes no personal responsibility for DS's change in attitude and demeanor either. He thinks its all about DS becoming a teenager, as if!
Maybe I'm undermining, but I told DS that I will no longer be sharing with H our day to day issues, I will just handle it myself. So then he gets the meds and finally opens his Father's Day stuff. Gets his gifts and leaves the handmade card DD made him on the counter. I take it outside to him while he tells me how I didn't back him, I never back him up, etc... Then his phone rings and its the Troll. I'm so sick of this $hit!