I actually did say "I took my vows seriously and I said for better or worse, til death do us part".
Interesting sidenote. She asked last night what my plans were this weekend. I said going to the lake (to her parents' cabin with rest of her family there). She said "But that is my family". My reply: "I am going to the lake" WW: but i am going to tell everyone what is going on. Me: good, I will be at the lake as well.
We will see what happens before Sat morning.
You mean she is using this weekend at the lake with her family to self-expose her affair???
My thought exactly Pup. Just another tactic to get you not to go.
I said to my WW on a couple of occasions "I don't remember our vows being 'I'll love, honor and cherish you forsaking all others until something better comes along'".
Should have seen the look I got with that one.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
As far as this weekend, I doubt she will get into the A. She will stop at M problems and likely D.
Pup (et al), talked to the family friends that WW went to see. She was there all three nights as she said. BUT, and this was good, friends asked her if she saw anyone other than gf she was going to see before she got to friends house - NO RESPONSE - to which friends said "I will take that as a yes". (WW told friends about the A.)
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
As far as this weekend, I doubt she will get into the A. She will stop at M problems and likely D.
Pup (et al), talked to the family friends that WW went to see. She was there all three nights as she said. BUT, and this was good, friends asked her if she saw anyone other than gf she was going to see before she got to friends house - NO RESPONSE - to which friends said "I will take that as a yes". (WW told friends about the A.)
About what I expected. She was definitely with him, but still trying to hide it.
You can do what you want about exposure to her family. I work in advertising, marketing and public relations, and have a saying: "Always position YOURSELF, before your competitor does it for you." Your wife is likely going to spin her family, full-tilt, this weekend, replete with all kinds of "You will hear all kinds of crazy things from L.I.S. -- he's paranoid, I've never seen him like this. He's so CONTROLLING!"
I'd strongly advise that you talk to them first, and tell them the truth.
Have to prepare for the $hit storm I will no doubt face when I tell WW I called the family friends. Oh well, she cannot think that I can't call friends without her permission. This backbone I have been growing feels ... well, weird.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Have to prepare for the $hit storm I will no doubt face when I tell WW I called the family friends. Oh well, she cannot think that I can't call friends without her permission. This backbone I have been growing feels ... well, weird.
Yeah, it's a good feeling, ain't it?
Just tell her "You don't get to dictate how I choose to deal with the pain you've caused me," and
"I will do whatever I feel I need to do to protect myself and my family."
