You shouldn't get so torn up, because your W will get the word from somewhere, she will get it from God. Keep your faith in the Lord, as your faith grows stronger in him you will become more comfortable with all the unknowns and questions you may have. This is simply because you have a reassured feeling inside you that the Lord is handling your marriage. You are already showing faith in what you say about "following the word and your prayers will be answered." I try to listen to my inner voice, to me that is the Lord speaking, but sometimes you have to listen closely. Remember God wants our obedience. I realize that is tough for all of as at times, but we have to try our best. Just keep STANDING FIRM.