I am the WAW...

[jandn]

You know, the whole mixed messages thing to me, is perhaps them only trying to convince themselves that what they are doing is right. It's really her not letting you go, think about it. If she was done, truly done, there would be no communication, no card, no exchange of books, etc. She's holding on, but like sooners7xchamps says, she's confused. It's a mixed bag of emotions. I'm no different. And that is why I wonder about my sitch, because everywhere else I read, there is this form of subtle communication going on.

Amen to this cause I have got the same feeling about whats going on with my W. I got the let me go speech, we detached for a while, then W tells opposite of what I thought she was going through. W is going through the same stuff I am with all the emotions and she is the WA. So not only is W confused but confuses the heck out of me.

What I have learned is that God hates divorce and that he wants us to stand for our marriages, it says this in the bible. The bible also says that for anyone that fallows his commands will be rewarded. In some regards this is a test on us, but also so that people can see what we do. We are used as a tool to show people how God works and that by having faith God will bless you, when other people see what is happening then God's purpose it to draw other people closer to him. This is done because of his love for us. Sometimes some pain is needed in order to fulfill the greater cause. Just keep in mind your faith and perseverance will be rewarded and your marriage restored, it's what God wants. Also his time table is different than ours, I think our not knowing when is the toughest part, but God has a plan for all our why's.

No matter how many times I read this everywhere, just gets me torn up thinking how bad I want this and if only W could get the word from somewhere. I just have to keep at it, follow the word and my prayers will be answered.