IMHO, start with yourself. Think back to what first attracted H to you? What things did you do, say? Start doing some 180's things that you feel need changed that will make H notice you again. It's time to do work, DBing is about changes to make you a better you. Make you be the best you that you can be for yourself & if in the end it works to help repair your marriage than it's a 2 for 1 deal. It can be a bit confusing, to go against what we would normally do ie. cry, chase, beg, etc. you probably did this as we all pretty much did but in the long run all that did was push H further away, so try and act 'as if', be as upbeat around H, save the anger tears and sadness till you are alone, all it does is feed the justification of the WAS
