I fully agree with you and lodo. Take it in baby steps. I believe another thing would be to log your progress and lack of progress. You are now the one who will have to be DBing to see what works with the H. In other words, keep track patterns of progress or backsliding and adjust your 180's from there.
Slow and steady. Like lodo said, it's going to take awhile for him to change his thinking and make a turnaround. You have the right idea.
My W and I met today for dog enchange (that's our kid). We had a pleasant visit, but I got a buddy-hug again. She's walled off. I just feel that underneath, she is hurt and pissed at me. The thing that is unsettling is that she is so calm and collected about the D. I even heard that she is selling her prized Mustang to make ends meet. Man, this doesn't look good. The D is final in August.
Me: 46 Second Marriage WAW: 38 First Marriage Separated: Dec. 2007 W Filed for D: Feb. 2008 For more hope, click: http://rejoiceministries.org/
