Yes, its THAT appointment. I have also been given my marching orders for the evening. I will leave work, go all the way past home to get DD from daycare, return home to pick up DS and take him to football practice, then go to Costco to pick up MIL's meds, go back and pick up DS from practice to drive 25 miles to MIL's house to deliver said meds because apparently H and SIL are unable to navigate their way to Costco and I on the other hand am freakin' Magellan and the only one for the job.
WHATEVER!!!!!!!!!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I didn't have to go all the way across town to deliver the meds afterall, H came over here to get them, but I SOOO wish he wouldn't have. DS and I have been having some problems and its hard enough for me as an adult to go through this, I can't imagine what its like to be a 12yr old boy and having to know what he knows. So I was very frustrated earlier and was complaining to H about it and so when he comes over here he decides to take matters into his own hands and be "SuperDad!" So he is a complete bully to DS and while I appreciate him stepping in and trying to make DS see some things about his behavior, the example he sets is so bad. He got really physical with DS, smacked him in the head 3 times. I was physically abused as a kid and I just can't take that. That is and always has been the road of last resort with me. I remember how it felt and I just couldn't put my kids through that. H was also physically abused however seems to embrace it. He hasn't seemed to learn what not to do, anytime it comes down to it, he bullies to make his point. He demands respect, but never gives it in return. So then he gets pissed at me for not backing him up when its my fault it happened. WTF? That is NOT what I envisioned when I was telling him my frustrations. H also takes no personal responsibility for DS's change in attitude and demeanor either. He thinks its all about DS becoming a teenager, as if! Maybe I'm undermining, but I told DS that I will no longer be sharing with H our day to day issues, I will just handle it myself. So then he gets the meds and finally opens his Father's Day stuff. Gets his gifts and leaves the handmade card DD made him on the counter. I take it outside to him while he tells me how I didn't back him, I never back him up, etc... Then his phone rings and its the Troll. I'm so sick of this $hit!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Smacked him in the head?! I'm sorry, no, wait, I'm not! That is not even remotely close to maybe possibly being even close to acceptable! NO, NO, NO!
We used spanking, so I'm not a no corporal punishment sort, but it was for pretty extreme cases, and it has been years (and we have a 10 year old!) I think you are right, the person we used to refer to as your H should not be participating in the day to day parenting of your son! Which is going to be that much more of a pain for you!
Corey, I'm with you on this one. He has stepped over a bunch of lines. He needs serious C, or the troll can have him! IMO!
Slapping the hand when they reach for something dangerous (especially as a two yr old), even a light flick to the back to get their attention, and yes, in severe cases a spanking....but smacking him in the head??????
*headdesk*
((((((Corey)))))))
Hang in there. You can do it.
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I just am not able to cope with that, especially not right now. I find it very odd that he has the audacity to try and tell DS how to "take a step back if your mad and then think about it" after smacking him upside the head...uh, not able to compute. I also think that its odd that he can boo hoo about his mom having done it to him and then turns around and does it to his son? Doesn't make sense. When in a serious situation that might actually afford him the ability to cast himself in the role of thea adult, he falls right back into old patterns...bullying, blame, shame, physical intimidation; its just so damn sad .
I guess their baby had its legs closed so the sex couldn't be determined...I was not helpful. I told H that meant it probably wasn't a girl then and when he asked why I said, well, its legs were crossed :o. Then I tacked on, well at least one of them knows how . Somehow he just doesn't always find me humorous. So glad I amuse me .
Check out the new signature if you don't think I'm amused!
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M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
That's great that you still have your sense of humor--sometimes I think you just gotta laugh about the weirdness or whatever of our sitches. I agree with everyone--that was over the line, and they say something like you need to break the cycle, so hopefully you can do that for your DS. Yes, I swear our WAS just don't think much or they've lost common sense & logic or something! So sorry that you are going through that!!!! (((((Corey))))) Karen
about his mom having done it to him and then turns around and does it to his son? Doesn't make sense. When in a serious situation that might actually afford him the ability to cast himself in the role of thea adult, he falls right back into old patterns...bullying, blame, shame, physical intimidation; its just so damn sad 
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. Somehow he just doesn't always find me humorous.
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