H4H: As far as enforcing, I am in no position financially to D her. I can only tell her my boundaries. If she does not keep them, the only thing I can take away is me. My friendship. Being dark with her. She'll have to do the dirty deeds.
I have to save up for my D, hopefully early next year March/April, unless something drastic changes in her before then.
All we can do is take the high road, be the better person and be able to look back and know we did what we could.
Its a fine line between setting boundries/doing 180 stuff, and then trying to be there for them and then not feeling like you're being walked all over/taken advantage of. I know I've struggled with this at first and I still do to a extent. We want to let them know we are here for them and supportive, but will not accept OM. I put out the ultimate boundry, give up OM or leave. I'm the worse DB there is on these post. I don't know how you do it H4H
Keeping an eye on your post, I know you're doing the same for me.
Well "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" I hear whistling in my head. I'll find love again someday. I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. I'm a stubborn old German.
We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
