H and I have this awful conversation. He tells me that because I am telling everyone about what he did, I am "defacing his character" and I have "no right to do that. It is just as bad as what I have done." "Two wrongs don't make a right." Honestly, is it bad that I am telling anyone who asks that my H cheated on me and wants to be with the other woman and he won't leave the house? Don't I have the right to say that?
Sara,
I suggest you say to him "I will no longer lie to cover up your affair," and leave it at that.
You should be fully honest with both families and close friends. Acquaintances, I would advise that you just say that "you're splitting up" or whatever, and not go into too much detail. If any of these people later ask you if what they heard was true, then tell them the truth.
Never separate an adulterer from the consequences of their adultery.
