I was referring to the fact that he got some "WARNING! RED FLAG! INAPPROPRIATE!" advice, and he got some "don't worry about it -- lighten up" advice, and he liked the easier path. Most do; that was my point.
I do think it's instructive that both WAS and BS agreed that his wife's behavior, at best, was inappropriate and making her husband uncomfortable, and -- at worst -- was something perhaps more.
I do think we all carry strong biases toward our own sitches, and especially toward what has worked for us. That's natural. Hopefully, we do all try to read what's posted, and be as objective as we possibly can. The recipient, of course, is alway free to use or discard as they wish, and as it should be.
