Hey Girlie, if you can, go to the beach. Sit. Take in the fresh air & the magnitude of the ocean. Just be in that moment. You don't have to decide anything TODAY. Just take care of YOU. You are all that matters today. You're valuable & special. Things will get better.
Ditto.
(((((((Thinking of you, sweet lady)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
My heart goes out to you for the separation you feel with your husband.
Is this a decision you should make in a vacuum, all alone? Who do you talk to (aside from you OM.. err.. OCat)? Being isolated emotionally from friends you've known who will support you as you need is tough.
How about that counselor?
It's tough working in the same place with him and her, him being seen as the 'savior' and big wig.
Hey gfi, getting back on board. I'm sorry to hear your feelings about H and your M. Is it really a turning point, or is it just the down swing of the roller coaster? I agree with Gypsy, talk it out with people you care about and give it a little time. Give us an update and don't make any sudden moves (I should talk!)
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Gypsy, I'm having a hell of a time finding a solution-based therapist. I'm still looking. I don't like to burden my friends with my situation. Also, most don't even know what's going on... only a select few, but I don't want to bring them down with my sad little story. Good things are happening for them and I like them to feel happy. They care about me and worry about me... I don't want them to worry. I'll get this figured out. Besides, this is what my amazing and beloved DB friends are for, is it not?
I won't make any sudden moves, but living with all of this unknown B.S. is taking its toll. This morning my husband dashed out of the house early (he usually doesn't arrive to the office until 10). When I arrived at work at 8, the OW wasn't here... that raised my suspicions, since she's always here early. She still hasn't arrive and neither has my husband. It's 9:45 on the west coast. So, my mind starts playing crazy games with me trying to figure out what the hell is happening.
Is he at the bank with her co-signing for her new home? Are they having a romantic interlude? Is it just a coincidence that they both aren't here? Is he meeting with a divorce lawyer?
If I knew the facts, I would know which direction to take. As things are, I feel like I'm running in circles in my head. I wish someone would just tell me what to do.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
((((Darling Girl)))) Maybe this is just the down sweep of the roller coaster or maybe since there is light at the end of the tunnel (H work project coming to an end) it is time to sit H down and get some things out in the open. Are he and OW so close because of this project or is there more there? Its time for you to get some answers so you can make some decisions about the direction your life needs to take. Keep looking for a solution based C. Don't let your mind run away with you if you can help it. I for one have a very VIVID imagination and can imagine all kinds of things, none of them do anything for me but make me etc... No need to put yourself through a range of emotions without some facts.
I'm so sorry it has to be this way. ((((Hugs)))))
corey
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Also, most don't even know what's going on... only a select few, but I don't want to bring them down with my sad little story.
As nice as it sounds, that's an awfully selfish attitude to take. How would you feel if the tables were turned?
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Good things are happening for them and I like them to feel happy. They care about me and worry about me... I don't want them to worry.
Does that mean they're only fair weather friends? Ms. imp.. ms. imp.. ms. imp... is this a diabolical plan for me to come out and personally thwap you with a Nerf bat?
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If I knew the facts, I would know which direction to take. As things are, I feel like I'm running in circles in my head. I wish someone would just tell me what to do.
Get out of your head, ms. imp. Do something visual.. do something physical to break the looping, obsessing. Go seek outside help. Get out of the locked box!
I agree. What are friends for? Not saying be a constant wet blanket, but you need to flesh things out with people that care about you. And breaking out of the cycle of gloom is great advice - whatever it takes. Even if it only helps for a little while. You need to remind yourself what that feels like.
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etc... No need to put yourself through a range of emotions without some facts.