h4h, thank you. I'm glad you have confidence in me, and you are keeping me in your prayers. I keep yours in mine, too.

Lost- the best thing for you is to read all of my posts from start to end and you will know where my head has been. Go to my name and pick "read user's posts". Believe me, I know what you are going through. If you continue to post, we could help each other tremendously by supporting each other. Bottom line, I am going to fight for my marriage because it is the right thing to do and I can't leave it before I have done EVERYTHING POSSIBLE. I understand the "hell" you've been living in. The other thing you should do is read the posts from the others on this board, especially to me. They have helped me sooo much. Start your own thread, explain your full situation, and you will get so much support and advice that will help you.

h4u, thank you for your post. Everyone would say we had a passionate marriage as well. My H did most of the things you said. You are right, ...at least for me.....it wasn't the love in the way we could feel it. You talked about rebuilding. My H said the other day: "We have to lay the foundation of the road to build the road and bridge over troubled waters." We both need to be patient in different ways. You are right, this will take some time. Let's do it! \:\)