I guess I need more info. What are his biggest complaints about the marriage? About you?
Did he feel respected as a man and a caretaker. Did you acknowlege to him that you appreciate that he risks his life to take care of his family (that was a biggie with my h. Not that he just provided for us, but that he put his life on the line for us)?
Does he appreciate your independance, or does he want to feel NEEDED?

Wanted to add that I to got good results from my letter, but timing is everything. He may see this as pressure, because you've been so weepy, and pressuring lately. He may see it as another attempt. Perhaps he needs to see you letting go a bit before a letter like this?

Last edited by ms ladybug; 06/26/08 07:32 PM.
Me 36
Husband 35
D5
S2
separated:
10/29/07-present
Served divorce papers 1/22/09
"When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."