So as for tomorrow, am i ok to dance with anyone there if W is around or is that forbidden? I love W, but i want to have fun, and i am not dancing with the men LOL
Gosh hard one. I don't know. I'd worry that it would look too "obvious" that you were trying to get her attention, and backfire, even if that is not what you'd be intending. I don't know. Are there "safe" people to dance with that would be there that wouldn't necessarily make her jealous (people she wouldn't be threatened by) but still give you the opportunity to dance, have fun, and for her to see you having fun and getting out there?
I don't think I'd necessarily be asking the hot girl in the room to dance in front of your wife. LOL
Chris
you think asking the hot girl to dance would backfire on me?
Her cousin is non threatening to her.. i don't know why i am even worrying about it, i don't even know if W will show up...and if she doesn't i still can't ask hot girl to dance because it will get back to her via her cousin... sheesh... not like i am trying to pick up hot girl.. i am just dancing and having fun.
maybe i'll just play wingman to my single buddy (who W's cousin is in love with)..
No over-analyzing every step, i promised myself and Jeff ..
Just be, enjoy the present..
right now i just look forward to be being beat on by my personal trainer.. and now that i've lost all this weight, toning up..
Remember i have always been scared to dance, worried about what others think... i used to have to get loaded before i'd go dance, i imagine i looked real dumb..
Thanks for the posts on my thread. Thought I'd stop by and say hi.
If I was there...I'd dance with you, but I'm not sure that would be non-threatening lol. Just be friendly and casual. Play it by ear a little and keep yourself open to the possibilities.
Don't obsess over the papers. They are JUST papers. They mean nothing, one way or the other, for the future. Be patient, hang in there.
You're personal changes are impressive - losing weight, working out, cutting back on drinking, and quitting smoking! Your W will not believe they will stick until you have been consistent for months though.
She is definitely noticing though.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Thanks for the posts on my thread. Thought I'd stop by and say hi.
If I was there...I'd dance with you, but I'm not sure that would be non-threatening lol. Just be friendly and casual. Play it by ear a little and keep yourself open to the possibilities.
Don't obsess over the papers. They are JUST papers. They mean nothing, one way or the other, for the future. Be patient, hang in there.
You're personal changes are impressive - losing weight, working out, cutting back on drinking, and quitting smoking! Your W will not believe they will stick until you have been consistent for months though.
She is definitely noticing though.
Hi Michelle,
thanks for stopping by my part of this world.. tonight personal trainer, i can work off all the stress of my work day (right now work is crazy)..
yep I will just BE... i think that's a good plan.. BE ME.. even better
As for dancing.. or having a beer or a lobster or whatever, we'll just see what happens, the old me would have gone and had to have called the W to come get me because i was too drunk to drive.. the new me.. has offered to be the DD for my buddy.. he took me up on it..
I know the papers mean nothing, i know now who is serving me.. (W's sister).. I am not going to let it worry me..
What got to me a little bit, is seeing a profile on lavalife for W.. (that's how we met)... but i won't let it affect my PMA..
Yeah you're right she likely won't notice i am in great shape for awhile, because it's only been a few weeks at the gym... (i even started throwing bread from sandwiches out because i dont want the carbs).. and i loved diet pepsi..now it's water.. lots of it..
Do you really think she is notcing? I haven't even seen her in a couple of days, both times she's come home i've been in bed sleeping allready..
1 thing for sure, I am noticing, and it feels greeaaaat!
No dancing with strangers! Dance with the cousin or someone else non-threatening. Have fun.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
As for the papers, I can tell you. My H has had papers drawn up and ready for filing for a month and a half. I admit it, when I was trying to figure out a reason for all of this, and wanted to see if he was having an A, I snooped through his work bag and found them. I cried horribly of course. There they were along with mine and my daughters social security cards. Everything all ready. Well, nothing STILL has been filed. I know the papers are there, I know they exist, but I can't focus on it. One day at a time right. Keep GALing, you are doing awesome.
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
As for the papers, I can tell you. My H has had papers drawn up and ready for filing for a month and a half. I admit it, when I was trying to figure out a reason for all of this, and wanted to see if he was having an A, I snooped through his work bag and found them. I cried horribly of course. There they were along with mine and my daughters social security cards. Everything all ready. Well, nothing STILL has been filed. I know the papers are there, I know they exist, but I can't focus on it. One day at a time right. Keep GALing, you are doing awesome.
Chris
I am not letting it get me down, I know my W is serious.. but haven't said a peep. Funny i just got a call from SIL (who i know is going to serve me) asking me if i was free this weekend to help her with her resume (i had told her i might be able to get her a job).. so i now expect to get served .. I called her back of course W and SIl have no idea i know, but i will be ready for it. I know it might come this weekend.. do i just go ahead and make myself available or just avoid her? hmmmm help?
You can't avoid her forever. Better that you're prepared for it than for her to just unexpectately show up on your doorstep. Do some yoga, take some Xanax and go over there.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
