Hi Artteach.

I'm new to Piecing, just moved over here from Newcomers, so - sorry, I don't have any answers for you, and I'm asking the same questions!

I read your post and I see many similarities to my own sitch.

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(been seeing her for over a year - I just found out 6 weeks ago)


It was the same with me, this Xmas H confessed to a PA which was going on for a year.

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Yesterday he did hold my hand and give me a hug while we talked last night. He does say he loves me, but I think that if he does and says so why are we still having almost no physical contact?


Exactly the same with me!

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My own insecurities: she was younger (10 years), thinner, prettier and he no longer finds me sexually attractive.


My insecurities are slightly different: OW is my age and even I can see that she is not half as attractive (been immodest ), but apparently the SEX was so great that now my H doesn't feel like ML to me. And -

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The other day he said that he still needs time to "get over her and come to terms with what he did to me and our marriage" and for me to please be patient with him.


Yep. I've heard it from my H a week ago. These words precisely.

Let's hope for an advice from wise folks :).

BTW: you teach Art? Me too!!

I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders
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M 46
H 45
D 17
M/T 23
Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06
Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07
Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08