But is he a risk taker? Like in sports or other areas of his life? A married woman is more "risky" than a single one. Also, a married woman is someone that can't commit to him. He doesn't seem to want someone "available." For some reason he seems to be craving this excitement.
I can understand you both limiting conversation with each other. Although it would be hard for me not to "befriend" (not as an actual friend!) him trying to figure out what was going through his head. It's just kind of interesting to me. Although I can understand it being painful to you and wanting to avoid knowing anything about his thoughts or life. I know with my H I was very curious too, but sometimes bits of information dug in like a knife.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Yes, H said he never meant to hurt me. Um...thanks? This from the man who called me on our wedding night (I have seen this from others on here) and begged me never to divorce him, ever.
On and off spews and make ups around here. I think H wants peace as much as me, he is trying. I have firmly replaced boundaries for the house. We are back to peace. I find it odd that H is so "Normal H" here, with me and the kids, and then he leads a completely different life outside of us. I don't question it that often, but these spouses truly amaze me.
I got this email today from a divorce group, thought it might be a good read for all:
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Why Is the Anger So Deep? Day 57
Because . . .
You loved your spouse with all your heart.
You gave so much of yourself to him/her.
You worked at the relationship.
You trusted your spouse.
You were faithful.
You went to church, believed in God, and tried to live right.
You thought you'd be together forever.
"You never think that you're going to get kicked in the teeth, but stuff happens, and you do," says Joanne.
"Your feelings are going to be overpowering sometimes, but I think people are much worse off if they don't let those feelings rage through their bodies. You have to rage, pounding your fists. You have to scream, whine, moan, and complain to your nearest and dearest friends; you have to do whatever you can to let it pass through your system."
Divorce brings an abrupt end to things that you thought were good, right, and secure in your life. Now you aren't sure which parts of your married life were real and which parts were only illusions. You are not wrong to feel anger. Justified anger can be a good and necessary response.
Jesus showed righteous anger when he saw people buying and selling their goods in the temple, making a profit from religious activities rather than revering God.
"Jesus entered the temple area and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves. 'It is written,' he said to them, 'My house will be called a house of prayer,' but you are making it a 'den of robbers'" (Matthew 21:12-13).
Lord God, I am so angry. I am furious at my former spouse, at myself, and at other people involved. I want to scream! Show me how to express my anger. Amen.
Hi lwb: Yes, H said he never meant to hurt me. Um...thanks?
I got the same crap from my W. The strangest comment, I never meant to hurt you. Are they brain dead, don't they know there are repercussions to their decisions. They are sick - sorry venting
Just stopping by to say hello,
We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Thanks Jeff and Sue. And yes, Jeff, that comment makes no sense. Deep down, he means it, I know he does. He may have been angry in the past (still now, possibly), but the actual affair? He hid it for so long for 2 reasons: 1) enjoying it (barf) and 2) didn't want to hurt me.
Well, ladies and gentlemen, my newborn is 4 yrs old today. I love that chick! Have a great one!
Oh and I met Hope for appetizers and drinks last night. I had a great time! Thanks Hope, as always. You LB husbands oughta plan a trip to StL, Hope is beautiful, kind and successful. Her X is C R A Z Y
Oh and I met Hope for appetizers and drinks last night. I had a great time! Thanks Hope, as always. You LB husbands oughta plan a trip to StL, Hope is beautiful, kind and successful. Her X is C R A Z Y
Thanks! I had a great time too. You helped me feel a lot better about my whole new guy situation. People that haven't been through all this just don't get it....you do and I appreciate all your kind words...and hopefully, I offered you a little bit of support too Have a terrific day with your girls today!!!!!
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Sorry for this tangent, but I thought I'd mention (in case you don't already know) that Joyce Meyer is holding her Women's Convention in St.Louis, October 2-4, this year.
I really enjoy her radio ministries (via the internet) -- and you ladies in St. Louis are fortunate in having her special conference there.
You LB husbands oughta plan a trip to StL, Hope is beautiful, kind and successful. Her X is C R A Z Y 
Thanks! I had a great time too. You helped me feel a lot better about my whole new guy situation. People that haven't been through all this just don't get it....you do and I appreciate all your kind words...and hopefully, I offered you a little bit of support too