Hi Everyone:

I had posted about how I was taking the initiative to contact GF's in my neighborhood that might be a better fit for me. And takes work b/c I have to get off my butt and call people - instead of just show up somewhere.

I went out to breakfast with two women - and it was so nice. With the bored housewives - all they do is drink and talk about sex. All three of us were born in 1965 - so really I do have people to grow old with. We are all battling the bulge and the bloat - a battle that changes as you age - but not to the point where we can't enjoy a great breakfast!

They all also have very organized lives. We are a good mix - I am just work. GF1 is just kids. GF2 is kids and work. But we all think and operate the same way. GF1 wants to put together a girls trip to NYC.

Anyway - I really had an enjoyable morning. Ever since I have been picking friends based on who do I feel comfortable with - as opposed to who picks me, I am enjoying these friendships a lot more.

Actually a post on Barb's thread struck a cord with me when she described her GF's and father's impatience when she was viewing the cottage she was considering purchasing. This was something that was important to her and I will have to post to her on her thread and ask her how she felt about that. I find myself in similar situations at times. I feel like I should set a boundary - but am not quite sure that that boundary is...so I say nothing and accommodate - and then don't feel so great about the experience.

Anyway, these GF's are M - and they share their lives with their H's. But it isn't a complete merging of identities. I keep looking around for R's I can live with. Funny how I still think of an R as this thing that one must do - but really is a lot of work...

Nuff rambling for today. I have work to get out the door. My list is shrinking - want to shrink it more - it is working hours after all.

Life is good. There are challenges - but I feel a general sense of peace. It is a very nice feeling.

take care,
AG