Real life is----part 5

[Starshyne]

Things have been hectic lately and I haven't had a chance to get over here.

I had a very decent conversation with H on Monday. We talked about how we were going to split up things and I don't know it was just a decent conversation between 2 adults.

All of that changed yesterday. We had a verbal agreement that he wouldn't be in the house of an evening and then I would leave at 10pm for him to sleep at the house. Well....my parents and I were out buying me a new bed and my Dad dropped me off at home. H's car is in the driveway (it was around 6:30pm). Dad comes into the house with me and says some unkind things to H. H calls the cops. He will not leave the house because he needed to study and has "sacrificed" enough already. I stay at the house because I had laundry to do among other things. H and I have this awful conversation. He tells me that because I am telling everyone about what he did, I am "defacing his character" and I have "no right to do that. It is just as bad as what I have done." "Two wrongs don't make a right." Honestly, is it bad that I am telling anyone who asks that my H cheated on me and wants to be with the other woman and he won't leave the house? Don't I have the right to say that? He also told me that I am ugly, he has no love for me, he doesn't care anything about me and he is taking advantage of me. It hurts.

I showed him the list of the things we are splitting up and he said he was going to make a lot of changes to it. He also said that he doesn't have to sign the settlement if he doesn't want to. And that if I get an order of protection against him, he will get one against me.

I hate how he takes advantage of this whole situation. Won't leave the house because he doesn't have to, eats my food, makes expensive calls and won't pay me for them, wears my clothes, uses my soap and detergent. I am taking food out of the house.

Here is my latest predicament. I am going on vacation to Disney for 2 weeks and leaving on Wednesday. I have planned to stop the mail for that time. I told H about this a month ago and told him to get a PO Box. He didn't do that. He says it is illegal for me to stop him from getting his mail and I am evil for doing this. What should I do?

He also says I am evil for moving all of his things out of the house and putting them in the garage. I am doing this because I know that he won't. Plus I just want everything that reminds me of him out of my sight. It is totally within my legal rights to move his belonging to the garage, which is still on the property. Just like it is totally within his legal rights to come and go in and out of the house (that he has never paid a dime for) as he pleases.

I am just really upset. I want this whole mess to end.

Sara