Withdrawal of OM and coping

[lost3031]

whatdidido, I am relatively new to this board but your posts caught my attention almost immediately. I am a WAW who is currently struggling to figure out if I want to reconcile with H or forge ahead with OM. I've been married almost 10 years, and OM is a co-worker and good friend of nearly 4 years. EA started almost from the first time OM and I met; PA started 4 months ago when H and I separated.

I'm curious to know how you came to the conclusion that you wanted to fix things with your husband. I still love H but I also have very strong feelings for OM which seem to grow everyday. I don't want to string both men along for long because they're both hurting. And I can't continue to live in this hell that I've been living in for much longer. Anything you can say to give me any insight will be much appreciated.

Good luck to you!