I'm which you Chris. My M was certainly SS too. H and I working opposite schedules and never having time together along with his "man cave" really did in our sex life. If I had realized just how much damage it was doing then he probably wouldn't have turned to the OW. He also never initiated or even attempted to and never voiced his feelings on anything so I don't feel 100% responsible that I didn't make it a priority. A rewind button sure would be nice. \:\(

T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!