I need her to sign the agreement, then I will say NONONONONONONO and No. Actually, I will just not respond. Unless it is the kid time thing. In the settlement, I paid more support that I had to to get more custody. Essentially, I bought custody time. If I could afford it, then I could have gotten sole custody. That alone should tell you where her head is at.
I will set boundaries as soon I have the document signed. The reality is slowing creeping into her head about the fact that I will not be her slave post D. She will go bananas when I start dating. She really believed that I will sit and pine for her forever. She has mentioned that we may get back together in a few years after she has the "time and space" she needs to explore. I have learned thru DBing and Couseling that I do not want her anymore. It is not really in the book but I started to imagine life without her and it was great!!!! I detached too far I guess.
This is embarrassing but during our S she was flirting with me like crazy the first few months. I would not touch her. She would get mad and say that "she was not good enough for me" and I was not attracted to her. I said no, you are divorcing me and it is not sane to ML whilst this is going on. With the OM STD news, I am damn glad I stayed "pure". No way do I want to be swimming in that pool.
Mike, at one point, she wanted to have the OM move in and we could all live together as a big happy family with me paying the bills. She didn't tell me this but she did tell her friends about the idea.
She mentioned the "I just don't want to lose you" thing last night again. I said that she didn't lose me. She threw me away.
