Forgot to mention in my earlier post today that I got the SSM book in the mail 2 days ago. Read it cover to cover. I swear we are the poster children for this book. I so wish I could get H to read it. I honestly think for us, the state of our sex life lead to a lot of the problems we had in other areas. I think if this had been healthy and we had had that emotional connection that my H was not getting, we would have been able to weather and communicate over all the other stuff too.
I just so wish I had known the damage it was doing. I'd give anythign for a rewind button. And of course now it's probably too late. And everything in that area has already changed, and would continue to be great now that I know what was at stake, and how it was damaging us so much. This sucks. To have all this clarity and drive for change, and no partner to do it with.
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
