I recommend you just stay serene. Tell her you thought about what she asked and that its a no-go. This is a D you didn't ask for and didn't want and you are not going to help her post-D. Nothing personal, but my self-esteem won't let me do any of those things (except take more time with the kids, of course.)
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
