But you know I think my H has been noticing that everything is getting done just as well, and actually I've done even more (been doing some deck staining, interior painting etc.)
It's a way I'm showing him that I don't "need" him for all the things he does. I WANT him because I love him.
A side note: there are a lot of things suggested in the DB book(s), and on the forums, that in the general case, are just the ticket.
HOWEVER:... they are not a magical fix for everyone. I mention this, because I think if ladybug got fixated on showing her H, "i want him but I dont need him".. it would damage things.
I think her h already has the feeling that she doesnt NEED him, and he's not that sure she wants him either.
if ladybug showed him more of a "needed him" side.. I think that would actually be seen as a positive for him. whereas for other peoples' spouses, it would be a negative.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
