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[7 Year Itch]

I totally hear you on the "he changes his mind daily" just remember the whole rule here about not listening to anything they say, and only believe half of what they do. I try to remind myself of that often especially as I get mixed signals too.

But for TODAY (take one day at a time) you have something positive to take in. Enjoy it. I'd plan something nice for your anniversary, but not OVERLY romantic so you don't have that added pressure. I think it's HUGE that he wants to recognize that day with you.

As for the lawn. I don't know if what I'm doing is good, but I'll tell you. We live on 4 acres, and taking care of the property by myself was really daunting at first. But you know I think my H has been noticing that everything is getting done just as well, and actually I've done even more (been doing some deck staining, interior painting etc.)

It's a way I'm showing him that I don't "need" him for all the things he does. I WANT him because I love him. I CAN be ok without him, it's just I don't WANT to be without him. I don't know if he'll get that message but that's what I'm trying to show by keeping up with everything. That I am capable, and that my wanting our marriage is not out of being scared ,or for security, or for what he can provide. It's simply because I love him. His first week gone he called the night before our trash night to say goodnight to the girls ,and then told our D6 to tell me to put out the trash (he always did this), happily she told him "OH, Mom already did". I think he is seeing that while those things were appreciated, they do still get done.

Chris