I am trying so hard to be understanding and be positive and his cheerleader. I really do think that he feels inadequate as C said but i am just so tired as this has gone on for soooo long.
It makes me so sad to know that he is still hooked on OW even though she is not interested in him.
He is never going to find those in love feelings as long as she is in the picture. Plus we have been married for 32 years and he might not have them hit him in the head anyway. He says he loves me and maybe i need to except that is enough but, I WILL NOT be second to her I'll leave. I'll give it some more time just don't have any idea what to do to help H get over her and wonder if I need to be more aggresive or just let it all go and act as if we are all better so to speak.

JAk

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez