Do you know with regards to the time period and control issues maybe he does have control issues as he knows that nothing winds me up more than not knowing what is happening, and I have also explained that it causes me much anxiety when I don't get an answer. Although I find it hard to think he is vindictive, I look at it more that he is self absorbed or doesn't know how to respond.
Oh and apparently he is sooooo busy that is why he can no longer be with me. His first reasons for leaving were that he wanted to concentrate on his new job and new friends - nice! He has different reasons for not wanting to be with me now but neither he nor I know what they are. Apparently his job is crucial to the inner workings of the infrastructure of the network. He has a really over-inflated sense of his own importance job wise since he left home. I actually find it quite embarrassing sometimes. I have wanted to scream at him that he is a poxy middle manager in a huge company but I have silently kept quiet and just inwardly winced as he talks to people 'below' him and exerts his 'power'. What comes out of his mouth in regards to his job is the biggest load of tripe I have ever heard.
Wow, that has been brewing inside me for a long time! It was good to get it out!! Ooh, I seem to have hidden anger and resentment where this is concerened.
I kind of figure maybe this need for recognition, as that is why he is now not satisfied with his job now as he is not being praised and acknowledged for his brilliance, is because he was helpless when he was ill and he is trying to overcompensate now.
