Hi Gypsy, I have 3 kids and they were 22,23,25 when my x walked. Married 30 years. So now I am post D 5years. I can tell you it wasn,t easy but there is life afterwards and the pain and hurt of being rejected and betrayed gets easier all the time.
You will find the strength to get through this and be stronger than you ever thought possible.
I never found the answers to what if's and why but now it doesn't matter it just "was".
I think for me personally I will always bare the scars but I have learnt not to pick them.
I wish you strength for the journey and joy and happiness in the future. Your children will bring you those things.
Be kind to yourself and look after your health.