I get the same anger and evil spew from my STXW. She blamed me for all of her pain, frustration, anxiety , anger, etc in the D process even though she was getting what she wanted.
It makes sense if you consider that the WAW blames you for every problem in there lives for the whole time that you were married (Mine has actually taken it back to before we met).
The D stuff has to be YOUR FAULT because everything else is. In my sitch she says: I lost weight (60Lbs) to make her look bad. I got more involved at church to make her look bad. I has very nice during the S to make her crazy (WHY WONT YOU GET MAD!!!). I do more of the houswork to make her look bad. I spent more time with kids to make her look bad. I helped the nieghbors ( the w is sick and the H is away on business alot) shovel snow/mow grass to make her look bad. All of my GAL activities are to make her look bad.
She takes everthing as competition and as a threat.
I came to the conclusion that she was mad that I was still breathing.
