VJ,

Wow, this guy IS going to push you away if he keeps it up. I have to say, at the 4 mo. point of my R with my BF, when he started asking me about making things more serious, I told him that I was in no way raeady for that, and he let it go....for the most part....I think that every few months he would try to address it again, but certainly not EVERY DAY! In fact, I recall him asking me if I wanted to "slow things down" or "take a step back". Your BF is not respecting your boundaries...that is, assuming you have made your boundaries clear to him, which I believe that you have.

I think I would just tell him, point blank, exactly how you are feeling about things....and tell him you need to be able to enjoy the times you two spend together....not get all stressed out about all the deep R talk....and that if he cannot accept things how they are now, that he needs to make a decision, but that's HIS decision and you will respect whatever decision he makes.

I feel for you teaching middle school kids summer school! I teach high school math, and I have always found middle school to be a hard age to teach. I much prefer the older kids. People always ask me "how on earth can you teach high school?" , but I think everyone has their niche, and mine seems to be with teenagers. Plus, I have honors math classes, so I am sort of spoiled!

Are you looking for a teaching job in the fall?

I am home with my kids all summer. They spent the first 2 weeks of the summer at their Dad's, and will go there again in the end of July for another 2 weeks. He lives about 2.5 hours away ,and he is great about spending time with them. During the school year, he takes them every other weekend. I am so grateful that he does his part with them, it wasn't always that way. He left when they were 13 mo. old and didn't take them overnight at all until they were 4 years old! ( they are 8 now) He remarried a wonderful lady, and she is a great influence on him.

Well, hang in there, and try not to stress about things. Enjoy your summer with your kids, it will be over before you know it!

TC