Question for live-in WAWs

[LosingSunshine]

Thanks for the insight Sandi! Right now, the sitch is just over a week old, and I have to the best I can, stopped all of the same old behaviours for myself and haven't felt better in years. I have even taken drastic steps to remove some future stressbombs (my MBA program - I deferred it until 2009) to allow time to work through this crisis. It's just that I find it difficult to GAL, when her POV is that I was always running out (actually, runnning errands for the family - we never had the division of responsibilities talk that probably would have kept us from this sitch).

Any thoughts on how I can balance GAL when early evening time is dedicated to kids. Do I wait for GAL until after bedtime? Is it okay to not do some of the evening responsibilities (bathing kids, laying them down) and risk the situation I ran into last night (you can read on my other thread - link is above)?

I need the dust to settle and get into some sort of holding pattern and feel that I am walking on eggshells with this.

Thanks!