Thanks for the comments. Really can use some positive thoughts this morning.
I think she thinks C to see how we would best handle K's if an amicable split happened. Sorry, can't go there.
Got all of the lines about how I am incapable of meeting what she needs - may have slipped a bit but I disagreed and said with help you never know what is possible.
Funny, but as soon as I disagreed I was labelled as "all mighty" and that I "must have it my way which is the only way that is right". Then was told that I didn't value her opinion here. I said why, because I do not agree? Response - yes. Sheesh.
Anyway, I am rambling / venting / etc. Not sure what I will accomplish at work, but need to go in (although I would rather stay in bed).
. . . which is pretty much why you don't want to get into anymore 90-minute relationship talks with her anytime soon.
"I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I understand" answers should be your stock in trade right now.
DO assure her (but only once or twice -- don't keep harping on it) that you are willing to put ANY AND ALL ISSUES on the table, including yours, if and when she ends her affair and returns to work on the marriage. She needs to get a strong sense from you of "Oh, I fully realize that you have grievances against me, and I AM willing to address them. But first you have to end your affair."
