Hello Lodo. As I said before, your situation is very similar to mine. What has helped me detach completely was no contact. I only respond to emails concerning finances / children / house, etc. STBXW keeps asking if I have heard from the courts about the divorce (I applied for divorce). I still have moments when I get very angry about what happened. It just sneaks up on me. I hate feeling angry. I hope it will go away. I spent the weekend in Paris. The weather was awesome. Had a nice relaxing weekend with my lady friend. Lodo, it will pass. Embrace the sadness and hurt. Don't fight it. Feel it. You will soon become numb to it. I am trying to do the same with the anger. I do it in private. No one else knows how angry I feel at times.
Take care man
MoMo01
I hate to say it, but what helped ME detach was the intel I was gathering. Everyone on here criticizes "snooping," but not only did it give me a constant accurate snapshot of what I was dealing with, but it also helped me DETACH. Trust me, with what I was seeing and HEARING daily, my heart NEEDED to get into a separate place, to protect itself.
