Fishing, Dogs and Divorce.....OH MY!!!

[Kman]

I only found 3 pages of your original sitch..is there more??

Unfortunately no, there was some big server crash or something way back then and most of my stuff from those days is gone...although truth be told it's simply a very classic, or "textbook," story of MLC, WAW, what-have-you...number two was somewhat different although the end result, obviously, was the same. If you look back at early 2007 you can probably get the basics of both.

By the way, I liked Ian's recommendation of what to say to your W next time that kind of discussion presents itself. The only other thing I would add is - when things like this come up, say the thing or things you need to (straightforward and with as much calmness as you can muster), and then zip it - I remember sooo many times that I would get into it and after 20-30 minutes realizing that we were just repeating the same things over and over after the initial part of the discussion/argument; you want to say what you need to, but also realize that there's a good chance she just won't get it, and repeating it or saying it louder won't change that. And I'll also repeat what I said in my initial post to you: she will say mean, vicious, sometimes downright vile things to you through out (as she obviously already has), since you KNOW this will happen use this knowledge to prepare yourself for it and do your best to let it go in one ear and out the other since she's not really rational or living in reality right now.

Keep up the good work dude - I know it's not easy...

Kev