(((Julia))) Don't fret, that was minor. I wouldn't sweat it. Remember, we all backslide, that is why we are here. But IMHO that was a really minor backslide, so that had I received that text, I would have thought nothing of it.
The good thing, though, is that you recognized the language, and can take steps not to do the same thing the next time.
's gonna be okay
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Thanks guys, I hate that I self examine to such a huge extent sometimes. I NEVER used to do this before all this happened and used to get along fine. Why is everything amplified so much now?! I feel like a self-absorbed freak!
Its okay...we all do it at one time or another! I am the same way, always walking on eggshells, but that is what we are here for.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Nope! The 48 hour time period has not elapsed yet that he usually leaves! :-) I also predict that our meeting will be scheduled for Wednesday morning as Wednesdays is his 'day' that I am usually allocated.
To be honest I don't think I will hear from him now until next week. It'll be interesting to see if he acknowledges my birthday but I really can't see how he'd do that. Little does he know that one small text message would absolutely be the best birthday present ever... but I'm trying not to focus on that and put him out my mind. Stressing about that little text last night has given me an achy jaw and bad sleep and I feel knackered today.
I think I was just frustrated with myself as I didn't take on board any of the lessons I'd learnt about communicating with him and acted on my frustration about the slow pace of things... his slow pace! I just would like to plan my week really, not that I suppose it really matters as breakfast is breakfast. I don't do anything before work anyway except sleep in as late as possible!
How are you doing at the moment? Any news on the house?
48 hours! That is a lsow pace. Does he have control issues, Obviously no one is that busy. The good side is that you have learnt to deal with this. You are a strong person for doing so.
I wouldn't hold out hope on the Birthday (though you likely will.....I think we all do). My W has not said "happy" anything to me in over 6 months (Christmas, New Years, Valentines (yeah right....lol), birthday, easter, fathers day, etc). It hurts, but I look at it as just being childish and it seems to affect me less. What day is your Birthday?
I posted some details on the house....it worked out
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
It is a painful pace! That is why occasionally I boil over like last night! You are right about the birthday wishes I shouldn't think he'll bother. My birthday is on Sunday. Last year he got me the most amazing bike, it's called a Pashley Princess and its so cool.
It was really thoughtful as he knows I have a phobia about driving but as you need some form of transport where we live and I love cycling it would mean I'd have a little independence for me instead of having to walk everywhere.
I've just done a bit of a 180 for me. In our last meeting my h and I agreed that he would put in another �200 into the joint account to cover his phone bill for this month. I've just checked the account and he hasn't! This means that unless he puts the money in tomorrow we will not be able to pay our mortgage and will get fined.
Before I have just swallowed it, you might remember last month I had the same issue and just put my own money in to cover it. Well, this month I physically can't so I phoned my h (obviously he didn't pick up!) and left a message asking if he could just check the joint bank account as I am out and about and don't have internet access today and I just want to check that we will be ok for the mortgage this month. He now has a days grace to sort it out himself or else I suppose me, the complete mug for having hope for this useless guy, will have to. Where is the h that bought me my gorgeous bike?!
I'm a bit upset that after our positive meeting last time he didn't do the only thing I asked him to do. I went away and thought about the house issue which is what he wanted.
I just get so p*ssed off that everything falls on me all the time.
I know what you mean about everything falling on you. It is good that you shifted some of the responsibility. I am the doer here as well. MOst of the time it is not a big deal, but you do like to get the cooperation when you need it.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
