For the first time since my W and I started piecing our M back togehter, we had a rather awkward day yesterday. I was in a funk all day due to a few emotional setbacks from the previous night. In addition to being upset upon learning that I would not be able to move back in with my W next month, I was also disturbed by a few words and actions of my W.
I spent the entire day over anaylzing the situation(one of my downfalls that I'm working on very hard). After work, my W and I got togehter to give D a ride to work. On our way back, my W asked me what was wrong. First lesson...DO NOT TALK ABOUT R DURING RUSH HOUR DRIVE!!! The words that came out of my mouth were not clear and accurate, and this led to my W becoming upset, which then only made me more upset.
Once we returned to my apt., I told my W that I would like to try again to explain myself, without the distractions of rush hour traffic. Timing is everything when attempting to discuss important R issues! This time, with the help of one of our books (Getting Back Together), I was able to get my feelings across in a more accurate manner.
Afterwards, my W and I both felt better about our situation. It turns out that I was not giving my W enough credit for her commitment to our R. I was still looking at the "old" R and making her out to be someone she "use to be". My fears from living in past got the best of me, but with help from my W, I was able to get back to the present and stomp out those fears.
My W and I concluded that my PMA was down and her PMS was in full swing yesterday. All in all, we both came out of it feeling much better about ourselves and our R.
- Mark
What goes around, comes around.
My sitch: "Third time's a charm?"
