Yes always two sides and the extremes! Strange but I was just thinking that I really should stop reading new posts I sort of get hooked into some and now I find that I am thinking the unthinkable which is I actually feel sorry for the spouse and not the poster. Maybe its just another sign of the boards changing. Friction and groupies abound.I,ve never been much good as a sheep. My neighbours are having problems and dispite the years I dbed I find myself thinking let him go and get on with your life don't wait years. I don't say any of this just try to console and listen and lend my support and help whenever I can. Your friends are lucky to have you in their lives. Why is it so complicated. If there wasn,t just me and my pets I think I might have my own MLC, but who would notice.
I see what you are saying. I say I understand her and I totally get how she thinks and for her, she has worked on things and tried different things but like all of us, we have different breaking points. I am sure he has his stuff too but he was a different man when dating and so she felt misled but tried for more than 25 years.
To tell you the truth, I think it is okay to feel sorry for the WAS at times. After all, we only get one side here for the most part. I can say with all honesty that I have felt sorry and bad for my husband. I admit I wasn't the best wife and in the early years, I just wasn't mature enough to speak up or to not be embarrassed to seek help for some of my issues. He cheated and left dealing with it in the way he knew how to handle it.
