Thank you putter. I pray that you and everyone else here end up where I am today.

Things have been progressing very nicely with my W and I. She was on vacation this past week and we spent a lot of time togehter, day and night. We are working very hard on improving our communication skills and it feels GREAT!

We use Sundays at the beach for our deep R discussions. We are starting off by studying the end chapters in The Five Love Languages where various R and love questions are tackled. Todays discussion came to a point where I brought up the topic of the "possible" OM. I wasn't looking for details, I just wanted to express some of the anger I was feeling when I thought my W was having an EA with a co-worker of hers. I never truly thought my W was having a PA, as I didn't see her as being able to go through with it. Well today I found out I was wrong as my W apparently "assumed" I was looking for answers. She said "my time with xxxxx(OM) was just for the sex". I guess I was somewhat shocked as I sat there silent for a minute or two. No anger, no hurt, no nothing. I then told her that I had I didn't know there was sex involved in their R until just now. She put her head down in shame as she asked herself why she let those words slip out. She then said that it must have been Gods will for her let the truth out.

I thanked her for her honesty and held her in my arms as she cried. I told her that I was proud of her for letting that ghost out. I felt that if we are going to work things out between us, it was important for us to trust each other and not to have any dark secrets stashed away.

My W took this harder than I did. She said that she felt as though she no longer deserved to be loved by me. I assured her that I understood why she feels that way, but my love for her is unconditional and does not surrender to her indiscretions. I told her that it will take some time for me to process this information about the PA, but I'm confident that we will both be able to put it behind us. I asked her how she felt about working with the OM, and she said she was over him and she actually can't stand the sight of him anymore. She asked me if I wanted her to quit and find a new job. I told her I trust her and there was no need to seek new employment unless she wanted to. She thanked me for trusting her and for now, she'll stay put at her job.

We talked a little more about various subjects before going back to my place. I took a shower and my W then rubbed some moisturizing lotion on my lobster red body. I offered to go over to her place later to put some lotion on her after her shower. She accepted so I waited for her call and went over to her place. After doing my good deed of tending to her sun burn, we layed on the floor and watched "Independence Day". We cuddled, hugged, "made out", and making love was good to go, but I declined... No condom(no baby for now) and more importantly, I had an unanswered question in regards to the PA with OM. I needed to know if safe sex was in place bewtween the two of them. I didn't feel the time was right to ask my W, so I said I would explain my rejecting making love at a later time. My W had no problem with this and we finished watching the movie.

After the movie, my W asked me to sit down on the couch. To my surprise, my W came out of her bedroom holding our wedding rings. (She had removed hers months ago, and I gave mine to her two weeks after the bomb. I had given her my ring along with a letter that explained how I didn't want my ring back until she was positive she was ready to accept my love and commit 100% to our M.) So tonight I sat there on the couch as my W proposed marriage to me as she placed the ring back on my finger. She then handed her ring to me and I proposed to her.

My W said she felt as though we were falling in love all over again. I agreed and told her that my request to God for a Miracle has been answered. I feel as though God guided me to Michele's DR and her BB full of you loving, caring, and helpful "angels". This is a Miracle that I will cherish forever!

For now, we will still live apart until a few more obsticles are removed. The biggest problem we face now is dealing with my step-son(19), who is still living with my W. I told my W that I will not come between her and her son while they work out their own issues. It may take a while but with my W expressing her desire for me to move in with her, I feel she'll be able to stay focused on what needs to be done.

- Mark What goes around, comes around. My sitch: "Third time's a charm?"