What was she doing that caused things to turn the corner? Maybe a return to those things?
One of the things I "think" I have learned is that we are not responspible for another person's happiness and that we should strive for contentent in our lives.
I just wonder if she got really busy finding fulfillment in life and was a little less avaible to him if he would start to miss her? Not leave him but just be so content, vibrant, a bit mysterious, unconditionally doing some things for him, might he reciprocate?
If he has always been a bit aloof, that is the package she bought and now wants to change it after all these years. If he changed, why so? If he was once not aloof what will it take to get him back?
Right now it just sounds like her displeasure is going cause him to withdraw more and the cycle will spiral downward.
My neighbor is married to a good guy. Some years back she was going to the grocery store and fantsizing about a checker (she told my X) fortunately she didn't do anything rash and they seem to be doing great. The grass always seems greener but we know, in divorce it never really is. Yeah we are making the best of this situation but it is not ideal.
Just some food for thought.
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