I think we each deal with it as it comes up, as it is true to where we are at in the R in the moment.
If your goal is to see if the two of you are compatible enough to REALLY give this R a chance. Then shouldn't that include all aspects of intimacy? Mental, emotional & physical.
YOu are asking him to risk emotional & mental intimacy with you in 'talking things' through, and he said he was willing to do that, right?
how is adding sex into the equation going to complicate it anymore? It's my understanding that men see Physcial intimacy as as we view emotional intimacy. It's how they feel more connected to the one they love.
Why don't you tell him what you just typed here.
If he were to initiate again, after this decision you have made to try & see how things fit, would your only reason to decline be because you didn't want to hurt him if things didn't work out? (I hope that made sense?)
Ask him how he would feel about that. How would you feel if he were to decline talking through his feelings about your leaving & risking emotional intimacy if he thought it would just hurt you?
How are the other parts of your sitch working out? Are you in counseling? Are you going to try MC together? What about the OP?
Hang in there.. been there felt that, trying to take different actions (right MaxP?)
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