Bring on the Rain - Part 3

[Rob1231]

He said, Well, I guess God has really decided to punish me.....a DUI, one of my worst performance months at work and now car problems. He mentioned one other thing, but I can't remember what it was. I didn't ask him WHY God was punishing him. I kept pretty quiet.

Wow, he just keeps making me want to slap him more and more. So, GOD is punishing him?

That must be because it was GOD who poured all that booze down his throat, and then forced him to climb behind the wheel of a car. Yeah, right....

And it must also be GOD who, in spite of all the hard, dedicated, serious work he has put in on his job, caused his numbers to slip. Yeah, right...

Bottom line, H just keeps digging his own crummy hole, and then looking for someone else to blame it on. Blame Sue, blame OW, blame God, blame the police, blame his coworkers, on and on and on - and all of the blame really belongs squarely on his sorry a$$.

I saw a spark of something in my H today that I've seen before. I picture H getting ready to run away. Run to IN, maybe? Since his brother is getting divorced he'd have someone to live with. Then, if they're both single, they could plan a move to CA. I know that he is still in contact with OW. I saw an outgoing call to her last night. Maybe I'm just overthinking things, but it just appears that he's slowly moving her out of his life. Maybe he's got me snowed....AGAIN.

It wouldn't surprise me to learn that SHE is moving HIM out of her life. (Can't imagine why, he's such a terrific catch, after all....) In either case:

I've seen this before. Times when life doesn't go right for him in any area of his life. Instead of turning things around, he runs. Me letting him go, his slow performance at work, (if) things slowing down with OW....etc....are all things that would make him say...see, this is the perfect time to bolt. And yes, he would leave his D4. I know he truly loves her, but I have no doubts that he'd go.

Now THIS scares me. I worry that H will clean out your bank account and leave you holding the bag - financially, legally, you name it. For example - is it possible he could decide to bug out, taking the working van and leave you with his broken down car?

Please, Please, PLEASE - take EVERY SINGLE STEP YOU CAN to protect yourself from any irresponsible and selfish actions he might take along those lines.