Sue,

I hate to say this, but it sounds like the self pity is surfacing with your H. Can he not see that he brought this on himself?

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength